5 Ways to Say I Love You to Your Cat
Cats aren’t as obvious as dogs in the ways that they show affection. After all, your cat won’t jump up and down and lick you ecstatically, and she won’t wag her tail with unbridled joy when she hears the word “walk.” But cats have their own very special ways to express affection and once you decode their love language, you can easily say “I love you” to your cat in a way she’ll understand.
Here are a few purr-fect ways to tell your cat how much you love her.
5 Ways to Say I Love You to Your Cat
1. Blink Slowly and Gaze Lovingly Into Her Eyes
Your cat might not appreciate being showered with kisses (and she may think you’re a little crazy if you try), but you can “kiss” her kitty style by meeting her loving gaze. One way that cats show affection is by looking at someone they trust and slowly closing their eyes. You can return this display by getting on her level, meeting her gaze, and slowly blinking back at her. Kitty will know exactly what you are trying to say.
2. Mimic Her Voice
If you’re the parent of a chatty kitty, you may notice that she has special meows, coos, or trills that she reserves especially for the humans that she’s close to. Imitate her sounds during a tender moment. She will understand it as a display of affection from you, and you’ll be helping her feel safe, secure, and loved.
3. Let Her Rub On You
Have you ever wondered why your cat rubs against your leg or butts her head against you? Cats have special scent glands located on their cheeks and heads. When your kitty rubs against you, she’s paying you the ultimate compliment of leaving her scent behind and claiming you as part of her family.
You can accept this gesture by allowing her to claim you. Lean into her little kitty head bonks, nuzzle your face into hers, and don’t move away as she’s winding herself around your legs. You may even be able to initiate the behavior yourself to some extent. While it’s probably not going to go well if you try to head butt your cat, you can extend your index finger towards her nose to give her the opportunity to rub her cheeks along your hand.
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4. Groom Her
Grooming is another way cats spread their scent to create a sense of family and belonging. While imitating her actions exactly wouldn’t be a good idea (unless you want to wind up with a mouth full of fur) you can still show your love by “grooming” her, human style. Try brushing her gently, using a de-shedding tool like this one. Or, you can pet her with a pair of grooming gloves like these from BISSELL®, if she seems to prefer that. Some cats even enjoy having a warm, damp cloth rubbed along their heads and backs since it takes them back to the tongue baths their moms gave them when they were kittens.
5. Don’t Skip the Vet
Okay, so your cat may not interpret a trip to the vet as a sign of affection, but she won’t hold it against you either! And even though going to the vet is probably not your cat’s favorite thing to do, it is paws down one of the best ways you can show you care.
Cats are masters at hiding signs of sickness and discomfort. Without regular visits to the vet, you could miss an important chance to diagnose and treat small health issues before they become big ones. Say “I love you” to your cat by taking care of her health so that she can enjoy a long, happy life with her favorite human!
Does My Cat Love Me? 5 Ways to Tell
Once you’ve shown your cat how much you love her, she’ll likely return in kind. So what kind of behavior should you look for to know if your cat is head over tail in love with you?
1. The “Cat Kiss”
As mentioned, cats “kiss” by gazing into your eyes. If you’ve tried taking the lead in this and your cat hasn’t responded, it doesn’t mean your cat doesn’t love you! She may want to be the one to make the first move. Keep an “eye” out for signs she’s giving you the “cat kiss” and be sure to reciprocate.
2. She Sleeps with You
Sleeping is probably one of your cat’s favorite activities! If she chooses to share this with you, nestling in under the covers or across your chest, it’s a sign she loves you.
3. She Shows Off Her Rear
Oddly enough, your cat sticking her butt in your face can be a sign of love and affection! Cats use their tails to express their feelings, so a straight up tail that’s gently swaying, exposing her rear end, indicates she’s ready for attention and affection.
4. She’s “Bunting”
Bunting is when your cat pushes her head and face into you. It means she accepts you as part of her cat crew. It’s also an opportunity for her to leave her pheromones on you, something cats will do to show affection to other cats. While you won’t be able to smell her pheromones, it will make her happy to include you in her inner circle.
5. Purring
Purring may be one of the sweetest experiences a cat parent can have. When your kitty is content, she’ll purr that deep hum that makes your heart melt.
Be aware though, that some cats purr when they’re anxious or nervous. So you’ll need to carefully monitor your cat’s behavior and make sure she isn’t displaying other signs of cat anxiety.
Can You Make Your Cat Love You?
Cats are discerning creatures, and you can’t force your cat to love you. Disrespecting her personal space — or going too far the other way and ignoring her completely — won’t contribute to your human-feline friendship.
However, you can take the steps mentioned here to slowly build a bond with your cat — on her terms, of course!
My cat is a Scottish fold. I luv her with all my heart I’m happy i can actually tell her now 😊☺️😊
Too cute! Thanks for reading.
Kristen
don’t you just love how much cats like to ask for attenition, my grey cat,alya loves to look me in the eye,meow and rub against my toes…. im so thankful for cats.
Aww, too cute!
That’s adorable
i love ding that! #cats_forever! <3
My female cat seems to know when I feel depressed. She’ll lie on me (across my stomach) and make squeaky noises 😂 it’s the best medicine and comfort for me. If she is outside and I walk to the local shop, she sits and waits on my neighbours fence until she sees me and runs up to me. Just adorable and I think she thinks she is a dog sometimes.
Aww, sometimes our pets just know how we are feeling and what we need! Thanks for sharing, Lorraine.
Kristen
Awwww it works! I did the slow blink and extended my index finger to his nose and he did the slow blink back and he started purring!
Aww, too cute!
Thanks, soo much, Kristen!
My cat is named Marvin. He used to never meow until I started giving him a can of tuna day. He has never purred once and I do have great hearing. I’m also not a very loving person to him during the day because I am very busy.He does however follow me room to room always trying to get ahead of me and guessing where I’m heading next. He is very sweet,does give me kisses on my legs,hands and try’s to grab my sleeve when I walk out the door and at night he always sleeps with me. To me he is the most perfect cat. I have never tried the eyes gazing yet. 😍🤔
I have two cats, both with VERY different personalities and ways of showing love. One of my girls can’t stand not to talk, give headbunts, make you pick her up and is very vocal. The other is more independent, her love is not just shown to anyone (not even my husband) but at night she’s always on my chest, if I’m crying she won’t leave me till my eyes are dry. All I had to do was accept that I’m not #1 in the house and I’m only a slave to my girls. 😋😂
Kellen,
Thanks for sharing! It always amazes me how each cat can have such a unique personality. But, you’re right, sometimes the easiest thing to do is to admit that they are #1!😂
my cat used to sleep with me and be quiet but now when i want to sleep she bite me and start acting aggressively but when i put her in my sisters room she come back quite and sleep on their bed i even start to sleep in the living room because of her i don’t know what to do 🙁
Your cat sounds like she needs something fun/interesting to do at this time of night. Cats are most active at dusk and dawn (ish). Try Changing her nighttime feeding to right before she goes to bed. The best way to do this is to put her food in 3 small bowls and hide them around the house. The first few times, you might want to leave some “kibble tracks” to the bowls until the cat gets the idea to “hunt” the bowls on her own. That should keep her busy as you go to bed. Another thing to try would be to have playtime with her about 15 minutes before you goes to bed. Do something to tire her out. I would do both if it were me! Ultimately, it sounds like she has some issues with boredom and engagement. You can learn more about what to do with a bored cat here: https://staging-kristenlevine-staging.kinsta.cloud/cats-bored-signs/. I hope that helps!
My cat is quite adventurous she’s always out and about. I’m moving and my cat does not like the new house she’s always hiding under the bed and out and out and a bought a lot more then usual. I tried to tell her I loved her. But I can’t find her anywhere.
Do you know how I can help her feel more comfortable in our new house?
Elise,
Moving can be so stressful for cats and their pet parents! Many experts recommend keeping cats confined to a single room of the house when you first move in. Providing her with everything she needs in that room (and also giving her regular attention) can help her feel safe and let her regain her “ownership” of her territory. Then, as she gets more comfortable, gradually expand her territory by giving her access to more rooms. Watching her responses is key to knowing when she’s feeling safe and comfortable enough to move forward.
Hope this helps!
Kristen